Teen Therapy for Girls in Cary & throughout NC
Process who you want to be. Create the change to get there.
The pressure feels like a 2-ton weight on your shoulders. From the expectations for your appearance to your job, sports, and grades, you never measure up. It feels like you're on a hundred mile per hour treadmill and you can’t get off. You desperately want friends, but the fear of judgement and not fitting in is crippling, so you stay quiet…and terribly lonely. Everyone but you seems to have it together and you’re just trying not to drown. You don’t get enough sleep because homework keeps you up late and you have to wake up so. dang. early. for school. You don’t feel like your parents get it. They want you to be one way, but that’s not you. So you stay in your room to get away from the pressure and expectations.
Does it feel like you’re drowning?
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Counseling for teen girls helps recognize destructive thought patterns and actions that lead to worry, hopelessness, and insecurity. We’ll help you identify your personal narrative and start focusing on thoughts that are true rather than the lies you have believed for years. Therapy can help you create daily habits to get good sleep, exercise, and get your schoolwork done. You’ll learn the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships. We’ll help you process where you’re at with God and, if you desire, we’ll work with you to grow in your relationship with Him. You’ll grow in confidence, develop practical skills to balance your life, and flourish in friendships and relationships with your family.
Being a teen girl often feels lonely…therapy can help. It feels like no-one understands. Therapists at Be Still offer a super approachable, super casual environment to teen girls to talk, feel safe, and grow. Counseling can help you feel less alone. We’re here for the journey.
it’s time to get your head above water
Therapy for teen girls can help you ditch the fear, grow in confidence, and live in peace with friends and family.
therapists for teens
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Zoe Sawdon | LCSWA
Girls 12 & Up & Women
anxiety | panic disorders | OCD | depression | guilt/shame | self-worth | life transitions
Zoe helps teen girls navigate the pressure, anxiety, self-doubt, and emotional ups and downs that often come with growing up in today's world. Whether they are struggling with friendships, family relationships, school stress, identity, or overwhelming emotions, she creates a space where they feel heard, understood, and accepted without judgment. Girls often leave feeling more confident, more resilient, and better equipped to handle life's challenges while becoming more secure in who they are. -
Ashley DeArcia | LCMHCA | ADHD Coach
Girls 9 & Up & Women
anxiety | panic disorders | OCD | ADHD | Guilt/Shame | self-worth | Life transitions
Ashley knows that being a teen today can feel like you're expected to have everything figured out while managing pressure from school, friendships, social media, family, and your own thoughts. She creates a space where girls can be themselves without fear of judgment, explore what's really going on beneath the surface, and learn practical tools to handle anxiety, ADHD, OCD, perfectionism, and life's everyday challenges. Through authenticity, encouragement, and evidence-based therapy, Ashley helps teen girls build confidence, trust themselves, and become more resilient as they grow into who they're meant to be.
imagine if you…
Felt confident walking into a room
Developed close, meaningful friendships
Got along with your parents and siblings
Had a plan for sports, work, and homework
You are not alone
Therapy for teen girls can help you grow in confidence, find peace, and enjoy your life
A holistic approach for teen therapy incorporates mental, physical, social, and spiritual (upon request) practices to help girls step into confidence, freedom, and joy. Therapy doesn’t have to mean sitting and talking if that’s not what you’re in to. We can color or create art while we talk and we may even go out and walk during some sessions.
Grounding techniques and mindfulness will help you regulate your nervous system and feel more present and calm. We’ll incorporate movement to help reduce stress and begin a more loving relationship toward your body. If you’re having trouble sleeping, we’ll troubleshoot and develop new sleep habits.
Mindfulness Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT) will make connections between thoughts, feelings, body, and actions. We’ll create new ways of thinking that align with the truth rather than the falsehoods you believe.
We’ll explore relationships-What makes them healthy? What makes them unhealthy? Then you can make decisions on who in your life fuels you and who leaves you feeling depleted. Therapy will help girls grow in communication skills, learn ways to hold boundaries, and decrease the drama.
We’ll create new routines that will help you manage all of the demands on your time. This will help with overwhelm and give you more confidence going into test time.
Each counseling session will leave our teen girl clients with new skills to practice during the week and help you feel more and more empowered to live in hope, peace, and balance.
Counseling for teens girls at Be Still is…
Empowering
Growing in practical skills
Understanding the enormous expectations on teens
Trauma informed
Therapy for teen girls at Be Still is not…
Formal or intimidating
Perpetuating the unhealthy social expectations of teens
Ignoring the role of hormones on teens
Alienating teens from their parents
faqs
Common questions about therapy for teen girls
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We recognize teen girls need a safe place with therapists who can provide care and support that honors both the teen and their parents.
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Hormones, grades, friends, work, sports, body image…all of these struggles are specific to teen girls, and we work toward expert knowledge to provide the very best care.
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1000%. It’s imperative any counselor specializing in the care of teen girls to be trauma informed. Whether it’s physical, sexual, emotional, or spiritual abuse, we seek to be a trauma sensitive environment.
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Call, fill out a contact form, or schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation with our Care Coordinator. We’ll get a better understanding of your teens’ needs and determine if therapy is a good fit.
Common Reasons Teen Girls Seek Counseling
Teen girls often come to counseling when something feels confusing, overwhelming, or difficult to name. They may feel the crushing overwhelm of ADHD or anxiety, or they may start to withdraw and become a shell of themselves as they navigate depression. Sometimes they know exactly what feels wrong. Sometimes they simply know they are struggling.
Many teen girls are high-achieving and place significant pressure on themselves.
Feeling overwhelmed by coursework
Perfectionism
Fear of disappointing others
Difficulty balancing school, sports, and activities
Counseling can help teens develop healthier expectations and more sustainable coping strategies
School Stress, High Expectations, & Burnout
You may notice:
Persistent worrying
Nervousness in social settings
Fear of being judged or rejected
Physical symptoms such as stomachaches or headaches
Struggling to find friends and fit in
Therapy can help teens understand anxiety and learn practical tools to manage it with greater steadiness.
Anxiety, Worry, Panic, OCD, & Constant Overwhelm
Some teen girls are exploring a diagnosis or have been newly diagnosed with ADHD.
Difficulty focusing
Spacing out or daydreaming
Being easily distracted
Impulsivity and unwise decision-making
Argumentative with parents about homework, keeping their room clean, and everything else
Turning assignments in late or not turning them in at all
Trouble starting or completing tasks
Forgetfulness
Disorganization
Feeling “lazy” or “broken,” even though they are not
Struggling with the executive functioning skills to organize their lives and succeed academically or personally
Counseling can help teens better understand how their brains work and develop strategies that support their strengths. One of our providers also offers ADHD testing for clients exploring this diagnosis.
ADHD, Executive Functioning, & Organizational Challenges
Socializing at this age can be, well….rough
Finding friends and fitting in
Feeling left out
Shifting friend groups
Conflict or misunderstandings
Navigating complex social dynamics
Bullying
Living in fear of rejection
Therapy offers space to process these experiences and build communication and relational skills.
Friendship Difficulties & Peer Conflict
Many teen girls struggle with:
Comparing themselves to others
Body image concerns
Not feeling “good enough”
Questions about identity and belonging
Counseling can support the development of a more compassionate and grounded relationship with themselves.
Low Confidence and Self-Worth
Family relationships often shift during adolescence
Increased conflict
Feeling misunderstood
Increased fighting
Parents’ Separation and/or Divorce
Navigating independence and autonomy
Therapy can help teens express themselves more clearly and feel heard within family relationships.
Family Stress & Changing Dynamics
Teens navigate what seems like constant change
Starting middle school, high school, or college
Changing schools
Adjusting to new academic or social expectations
Adjusting to a new home or school
Death in the family
Coping with their own, or a family member’s, new diagnosis
Counseling can offer steady support during periods of transition.
Life Transitions
For teens who desire it, faith can be incorporated into sessions in an invitational way. We work with teens who are strong in their faith, weak in their faith, doubting their faith, have no faith, or are considering rejecting their faith.
Process your current struggles and past experiences in light of the Gospel
Basing your identity, value, and worth on the truth of the Gospel
Doubting or rejecting the faith that was once the center of your world
Wondering if God is real, if He’s good, and if He loves you
Processing the effects of growing up in a rigid or rules-based home or culture that focuses on behavior management over spiritual transformation
Untangling the truth of the Gospel from people’s (sometimes wayward) opinions
Figuring out what you believe versus what you’ve been told
Learning to live out your faith
Discerning how to live out your faith apart from your parents
Counseling from a Christian perspective can help you move from bondage, fear, and worthlessness to love, freedom, and joy.
Spiritual Questions & Christian Faith-Integrated Counseling
How Counseling can Support Teen Girls
Counseling can help you:
Better understand their emotions
Learn coping skills for anxiety and stress
Build executive functioning and organizational strategies
Strengthen communication skills
Increase confidence and self-awareness
Learn how to find friends and navigate the social complexities of school
Learn how to cope with big emotions and the mood swings of puberty
Figure out who they are and what they value
Create a hopeful vision for their future
Care balances support with gently accountability so growth feels managable and sustainable. We also work directly with parents on the best ways to support their daughter at home.
What Sessions Look Like
We recognize that beginning therapy can feel intimidating, especially if its a first experience.
Sessions with Be Still are warm, informal, relational, and down to earth. Whether your at home or our office, cozy up with a cup of tea and relax. Most of our teens enjoy coming in and start talking right off the bat. For others, it takes time and patience to develop a strong rapport. Depending on what’s best for the client, our therapists may incorporate creative or movement-based elevements such as:
Using fidgets
Coloring or art
Games
Fun and silly conversation starters
Listening to songs that are important to the client
Walking outside
These approaches can help teens feel more comfortable and engaged. Parents may be involved periodically, depending on goals and needs.
In-Person Counseling in Cary, NC & Secure Telehealth Across North Carolina
Many middle and high school students prefer in-person counseling. We offer in-person sessions at our Cary office, including after-school availability, as well as secure telehealth services across North Carolina.
i’m just not sure if i should move forward with counseling
Common barriers for parents when teen girls seek therapy
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We get it! We offer after school sessions for teens. Focusing on healing and practical skills will only help teens approach their other activities with ease and balance.
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We work to reconcile teens and their parents! It may take time, but rest assured we work with the framework that parents are the primary influencers in a teens life.
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We get it, we’re moms too! There is a fine balance with counseling teens. We want to honor that you’re the parent; however, if our client thinks we’re a spy for their parents, they will not talk to us. We might bring parents into sessions if our client would like us to discuss something with a parent in a safe space or if a client asks us to share with the parent. Otherwise, what’s discussed during our time together stays between us.
take heart
You’re not alone
You’ve got this. We’ll help you get there.
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