Therapy for Tween Girls
Holistic counseling & wellness for women & girls in Cary & throughout NC
A safe place to talk & learn the skills to thrive
Does it feel like you’ve lost your sweet little girl?
The precious little girl you’ve known, spent time with, and love is, well….different. Behavior at home or school has drastically changed. Big explosions turn into hours in her room alone doing who knows what. Her mood is as volatile as North Carolina weather. She goes from irritable to angry to tearful to shutdown all in a hot minute. It leaves you walking on egg shells because you don’t know what to expect. Things she used to love are no longer of interest to her. She may feel excluded, bullied, or become overly dependent on her peers. She nit picks her body and is filled with self doubt and never feels she is “enough.” She’s worried all. the. time. Worried about school, friendships, fitting in. Unexplained stomach aches or headaches create frequent school absences. She’s not sleeping well, her appetite has changed, and she’s obsessed with her phone. She puts herself down all the time, compares herself to others, and her self esteem has plummeted. She seems to attract mean girls and it’s killing her. A recent major change like a death, a move, family conflict, or a divorce may have recently rocked her world and she doesn’t know how to cope. The pressure for perfection in dance, sports, or school makes her deeply distressed by any mistake, failure, or unmet expectation. Or, on the other hand, some girls don’t seem to care at all anymore. She won’t come to you because, of course, you don’t know anything. But TikTok seems to. Therapy for your tween girl can help.
this is a volatile season of your daughter’s life
Therapy can help your tween girl identify her emotions, learn ways to cope, feel happier, and enjoy life again.
Therapy gives your tween a safe place to emote, talk things out, and vent in a safe place where she’s not going to get in trouble or feel judged. She won’t be labeled as “too sensitive” or “overreacting.” She’ll learn how to identify what she’s feeling, put words to it, and cope with her day-to-day experiences. She’ll begin using age-appropriate skills to regulate herself when she’s upset, overwhelmed, or overstimulated.
Self confidence will improve as she recognizes her self talk and develop a more compassionate inner voice. She’ll start identifying what she values and anchor her identity on her intrinsic value and worth-not what peers or social media says.
She’ll identify mean girl behavior and recognize where drama, peer pressure, and people pleasing is destroying her peace. She’ll learn to find healthy friendships, be a kind friend, and flourish socially.
therapists for tween girls
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Morgan Ridgell | Counselor for Tween Girls
Tweens, Teens, & Adult Women
Anxiety, Depression, Grief & Loss, & Life Transitions
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Ashley DeArcia | Counselor for Tween Girls | ADHD Coach
Tweens, Teens, & Adult Women
ADHD, Anxiety, Depression, Grief & Loss, & Life Transitions
Counseling in English & Spanish
your daughter can…
Learn how to identify and regulate her emotions
Develop close, meaningful relationships
Feel empowered to have a voice and use it
Identify her needs
Discovered your identity, your values, and your purpose
You are not alone
Therapy for tween girls can help you grow in confidence, find peace, and enjoy your life
A holistic approach for tween therapy incorporates mental, physical, social, and spiritual (upon request) practices to help girls step into confidence, freedom, and joy. Therapy doesn’t have to mean sitting and talking if that’s not what she’s in to. We can color or create art while we talk and we may even go out and walk during some sessions.
Grounding techniques and mindfulness will help you regulate your nervous system and feel more present and calm. We’ll incorporate movement to help reduce stress and begin a more loving relationship toward your body. If you’re having trouble sleeping, we’ll troubleshoot and develop new sleep habits.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) will help make connections between thoughts, feelings, and actions. We’ll create new ways of thinking that align with the truth rather than the falsehoods you believe.
We’ll explore relationships-What makes them healthy? What makes them unhealthy? Then you can make decisions on who in your life fuels you and who leaves you feeling depleted. Therapy will help tween girls grow in communication skills, learn ways to hold boundaries, and decrease the drama.
We’ll create new routines that will help you manage all of the demands on your time. This will help with overwhelm and give you more confidence going into test time.
Each counseling session will leave our teen girl clients with new skills to practice during the week and help you feel more and more empowered to live in hope, peace, and balance.
Therapy for tween girls with Be Still is…
Learning to identify thoughts and feelings, and how they manifest in the body
Learning coping skills to deal with the day-to-day
Getting on a regular schedule for sleep, schoolwork, etc.
Working with parents to learn how to best support your child
Therapy for tween girls with Be Still is not…
Formal or intimidating
Focusing only on behavior…we want your daughter to become WELL…not just be a “good girl”
Ignoring the role of hormones on mental health
Alienating tweens from their parents
faqs
Common questions about counseling for tween girls
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We recognize tween girls need a safe place with therapists who can provide care and support that honors both the teen and their parents.
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Hormones, grades, friends, sports, body image…all of these struggles are specific to tween girls, and we work toward expert knowledge to provide the very best care.
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1000%. It’s imperative any counselor specializing in the care of girls to be trauma informed. Whether it’s physical, sexual, emotional, or spiritual abuse, we seek to be a trauma sensitive environment.
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Call, fill out a contact form, or schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation with our Care Coordinator. We’ll get a better understanding of your teens’ needs and determine if therapy is a good fit.
A Note to Parents
Parenting is HARD! And we take the stance that, with a few exceptions, parents are truly doing the best they can with what they know. Yet, we can (hopefully) all acknowledge that we fall short in our own relationships, ways of thinking, and patterns of behavior that can negatively affect our daughters’ mental health.
Sending your daughter to therapy is a fantastic first step to give her the support she needs. However, your daughter doesn’t live in a vacuum. Her family has the incredible opportunity to encourage, uplift, teach, and model health and wellness. Family can also model destructive relationship skills, steep its members in shame, and perpetuate another generation of distress. In other words, therapy won’t “fix” your daughter if the family system she lives in doesn’t grow with her. No amount of teaching healthy self talk in the therapy room will override a parent who yells at her and berates her. Learning ways to exhibit healthy relationship skills will not stick if she is forced to witness parents aggressively fighting or when a sibling bullies her. Helping girls see their value and worth in the Gospel means nothing when parents weaponize scripture as a way to become a convenient, well behaved girl. For the Christian, we’re looking for spiritual transformation…not behavior management.
As hard as it is to admit, us parents, in some way (sometimes big, sometimes small), contribute to our daughter’s health as well as distress. And in order for her to thrive emotionally, physically, socially, and spiritually, there will likely need to be changes in the family. But don’t stress! Your Therapist will walk alongside you to coach you in ways that you and the rest of your family can best support your daughter, and each other. While we won’t give details of counseling sessions (your daughter won’t talk to us if she thinks we’re a spy for her mother), we will give you practical tools to help support your family moving toward health and wholeness.
i’m just not sure if i should move forward with counseling
Common barriers for parents seeking therapy for their tween girl
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We get it! We offer after school sessions for teens. Focusing on healing and practical skills will only help teens approach their other activities with ease and balance.
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When appropriate, we work to reconcile tweens and their parents! It may take time, but rest assured we work with the framework that parents are the primary influencers in a teens life.
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We get it! There is a fine balance with counseling tweens. We want to honor that you’re the parent; however, if our client thinks we’re a spy for their parents, they will not talk to us. We might bring parents into sessions if our client would like us to discuss something with a parent in a safe space or if a client asks us to share with the parent. Otherwise, what’s discussed during our time together stays between us.
hope is here
It doesn’t have to stay like this.
Therapy for tween girls. Reach out today!
